Eer, Beer, Phatte – dislike homework

How to talk to a child when they don’t want to do the homework?

Once upon a time, 3 kids disliked their homework. Their moms reacted in different manners that made each of them a different person. But ‘Hum’ turned out very different.

When Eer won't do the homework

Eer’s Mom: “Darling, you have English and Maths homework, lets complete it before your TV time.”

Eer: “I want to watch TV first. Please please please.”

Eer’s Mom: “Okay but you are not going to park for playtime unless you have finished your homework.”

Eer: “Alright.”

Eer watches the TV for some time.

Eer’s Mom: “TV time is up. Now it is homework time.”

Eer: “I don’t like homework. I want to go to the park.”

Eer’s Mom: “No. we decided that we will first finish the homework, then go to play.”

Eer: “All my friends will be playing. I want to go.”

Eer’s Mom: “Then why did you waste your time watching TV. Now you have to finish your homework before going out.”

Eer (starts crying): “I want to play in the park with my friend. Everyone will play. Only I will not get to play.”

Eer’s Mom: “Okay, stop crying! But you have to finish your homework after the playtime.”

Eer runs out to play.

When parents don't keep their word, children don't respect them.

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When Beer won't do the homework

Beer’s Mom: “Darling, you have English and Maths homework, lets complete it before your TV time.”

Beer: “I want to watch TV first. Please please please.”

Beer’s Mom: “You will not get to watch TV or go out to play unless you have finished your homework.”

Beer: “Mom, I don’t like Maths and English. I want to do something else.”

Beer’s Mom: “You will sit here in one place and finish your homework. Don’t you move until all the homework is finished.”

Beer starts crying and doing the homework. But the quality of the homework is poor. Once the homework is completed…

Beer’s Mom: “Good boy. You finished it. Let me see. What handwriting is this? I don’t understand anything. I think you have to re-write this page. ”

Beer (crying): “I’m not going to do any more homework. I’m too tired. I want to go out and play.”

Beer’s Mom: “Alright for today, but I want this to be improved from tomorrow…”

By the time Beer’s mom finishes her sentence, Beer is off to play.

When we force a child to do something, the quality of that task will suffer.

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When Phatte won't do the homework

Phatte’s Mom: “Darling, you have English and Maths homework, lets complete it before your TV time.”

Phatte: “I want to watch TV first. Please please please.”

Phatte’s Mom: “Forget about TV, you will not even get to go to the park for playtime if this homework is not finished.”

Phatte: “I don’t like homework. Dad never does any homework.”

Phatte’s Mom: “Dad goes to work and he is tired after the hard day at work.”

Phatte: “I go to school and I’m also tired after a hard day at school. Why should I do the double shift?”

Phatte’s Mom (shouts): “Stop arguing with me and start your homework or there is no TV and no playtime for you.”

Phatte (shouts): “I don’t care! You watch TV without doing any homework. Why should I do homework to watch TV?”

Phatte’s Mom: “Stop shouting and get in your room and do your homework.”

Phatte: “I hate you! I hate you!!”

Phatte runs furiously into his room and slams the door hard.

When parents don't treat the child equal, the child don't feel respected.

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When Hum won't do the homework

Hum’s Mom: “Darling, you have English and Maths homework, lets complete it before your TV time.”

Hum: “I want to watch TV first. Please please please.”

Hum’s Mom: “You would like that don’t you. I think ‘Hannah Montana’ must be on right now. I know how much you love to watch it.”

Hum: “Mom can I please watch ‘Hannah Montana’? I promise I’ll finish the homework after that.”

Hum’s Mom: “Well you have your playtime after that. So I suggest you finish your homework before that.”

Hum: “Okay, but I don’t like Maths and English so much, can I practice science first.”

Hum’s Mom: “I see, what would you like to do in science?”

Hum: “I’d like to read about my science project.”

Hum’s Mom: “Sure. Are 10 minutes good enough for that?”

Hum: “Yeah! And I can finish English and Maths in 20 minutes.”

Hum takes 20 minutes for his science projects.

Hum’s Mom: “Just a reminder for Maths and English homework.”

Hum: “Yes. Yes. Yes. I remember.”

Hum is very happy after working on his science project and now completes his homework happily to the best of his abilities.

When we support the child for something of her interests, it easy for her to cooperate with things that don't interest her.

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When Tum won't do the homework

Tum’s Mom: “Darling, you have English and Maths homework, lets complete it before your TV time.”

Tum: “I want to watch TV first. Please please please.”

Tum’s Mom: “Afterwards it is your play time. Do you think it is a good idea?

Tum: “Yes mom I’ll complete it before going to bed.”

Tum’s Mom: “I suggest you finish it now because after play you will feel hungry, tired and sleepy. That is not a good time for homework.”

Tum: “I can do it Mom”

Tum’s Mom: “I trust you, my dear. I know you will make the right choice.”

Tum watches TV and then goes to play and that’s why the homework is incomplete. Next day Tum gets the consequence for not completing the homework. After school…

Tum’s Mom: “Darling do you have any homework today?”

Tum: “Yes mom. I’m doing it now.”

When the child learns from her own mistakes, the learning is deeper.

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