Tao Te Ching - Chapter 20
Stop thinking, and end your problems.
What difference between yes and no?
What difference between success and failure?
Must you value what others value,
avoid what others avoid?
Other people are excited,
as though they were at a parade.
I alone don’t care,
I alone am expressionless,
like an infant before it can smile.
Other people have what they need;
I alone possess nothing.
I alone drift about,
like someone without a home.
I am like an idiot,
my mind is so empty.
Other people are bright;
I alone am dark.
Other people are sharper;
I alone am dull.
Other people have a purpose;
I alone don’t know.
I drift like a wave on the ocean,
I blow as aimless as the wind.
I am different from ordinary people.
I drink from the Great Mother’s breasts.
- Stephen Mitchell's translation from Tao Te Ching (The book of the way)
Tao inspired parenting
Stop judging your child through the lense of the society, and end your problems.
Why does a parent say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to a child?
Why parents focus so much on success and failure?
Must parent value what society values as success?
Must parents avoid what society considers as wrong?
Isn’t it ridiculous to base our values to someone else’s perspective?
People in society are driven by routine and clock,
As if they are in some kind of a parade.
The child doesn’t care about such routines and time.
The child wonders and doesn’t know how to react to such a parade.
The child reacts like this because she is pure and not yet influenced by society.
People in society usually want to own things.
A child posses nothing.
A child lives in the flow of life.
It can appear as if she doesn’t belong anywhere,
As if she is an idiot,
However, the truth is that she doesn’t hold on to ideas.
People in society usually want to act smart.
A child appears to be stupid due to her authenticity.
People in society usually want to be efficient.
A child appears to be wasting her time in play.
People in society usually lead their life with a purpose.
A child is not serious about results, but she is sincere about her play.
It appears as if she is drifting about anywhere.
It appears as if she doesn’t have any aim.
A child is unique and doesn’t follow the social norms.
She is driven by the laws of the universe.