Tao Te Ching - Chapter 31
Weapons are the tools of violence;
all decent men detest them.
Weapons are the tools of fear; a decent man will avoid them
except in the direst necessity and, if compelled, will use them only with the utmost restraint.
Peace is his highest value.
If the peace has been shattered, how can he be content?
His enemies are not demons, but human beings like himself.
He doesn’t wish them personal harm.
Nor does he rejoice in victory.
How could he rejoice in victory and delight in the slaughter of men?
He enters a battle gravely, with sorrow and with great compassion, as if he were attending a funeral.
- Stephen Mitchell's translation from Tao Te Ching (The book of the way)
Tao inspired parenting
Punishment is an act of violence;
All sensible patents detest it.
Punishment is a fear-based tool; a kind parent will avoid it
except in the extreme necessity and if compelled, will use is with kindness and restraint.
Unconditional love is the highest value of the parent,
hence punishment is unnerving to such parent.
Punishing a child is like punishing oneself.
A sensible parent never do any harm to the child,
nor she would justify doing so.
How can it be an unconditional love if he does so?
The master parent allows the child to go through her consequences and struggle, with compassion and emotional support.