Tao Te Ching - Chapter 8
The supreme good is like water, which nourishes all things without trying to.
It is content with the low places that people disdain.
Thus it is like the Tao.
In dwelling, live close to the ground.
In thinking, keep to the simple.
In conflict, be fair and generous.
In governing, don’t try to control.
In work, do what you enjoy.
In family life, be completely present.
When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you.
- Stephen Mitchell's translation from Tao Te Ching (The book of the way)
Tao inspired parenting
Parenting is like water. Take care of the child without trying to. By this, it means to take care of the child because there is fun in it.
When you have fun in nurturing the child and building that bond with her it feels effortless, hence you don’t have to try.
When you are content in serving (a low place) the child, you are like the Tao (you are one with the child). Here is a beautiful video that shows ‘taking care without trying to’.
In your identity be at a service to the child. Being grounded like this will give you your peace of mind.
While developing habits in your child, keep it simple for the child and only give them reminders.
When the child misbehaves, be fair and forgiving.
Let the child make her own decisions. Don’t try to control her free will. Let her learn from her mistakes.
Let the child choose her future according to what she enjoys. This playful attitude towards her life will allow her to find her purpose and passion.
Build your family bonding by being completely present with them. That means listen to them with full attention without imposing your judgement on them.
Children will respect you the most when you don’t impose your judgement on them. Share your feelings as your point of view and openness (don’t compare or compete).